Wolf Creek Academy provides therapeutic and spiritual intervention for your teens who struggle with anger and rage.
To live in a world where everyone loves one another and all gets along would be glorious! However, that is not likely to happen in our lifetime! Therefore, we must begin the arduous process of adequately preparing our kids to deal with angry people and those who would deliberately annoy or bully.
In a recent group meeting with some of our students, I stepped out on a limb and asked the question, “What really ticks you off”? I was fully expecting that my answers would come in a wide range. I was amazed to hear that most teens were truly angered about two or three things only. I was again surprised to hear that most of their answers regarding their anger were directed at their parents and what the parents do to make them angry.
Many stated that they disliked it and became angry when parents would not give them a chance to speak regarding certain situations they were being questioned or punished. They stated that their parents, in most cases, already had a formed opinion of what had happened without even hearing their side or their input. They stated that those conversations and moments would lead to them stuffing their anger as they felt it would fall on deaf ears, only making them feel worse and angrier. They expressed that they realize “stuffing” their anger only made things worse for them, but they felt there were few options for their parents to hear them out.
The next answer was almost unanimous among the teens as they answered and stated that one of the things that really made them angry was that parents would tend to bring up things from their past when a new situation arose. They expressed a desire for parents to give them a “clean slate” and not reflect on their past issues, allowing them the opportunity to learn from the present mistake without having to go back and include their past mistakes with each new infraction.
The next answer regarding what really “ticked them off” and made them angry was a great surprise as several stated that they wish parents would be on the same page regarding family boundaries for them. Some expressed their frustration or anger regarding the different parenting styles used and how it made them feel when one parent would place certain expectations. Still, the other parent would completely negate that particular family rule’s necessity. They felt their anger would be exacerbated when mom and dad could not sit in the same room with them to discuss their infractions without the two of them getting into an argument about the appropriate way to handle the situation. Most of the students said that it made them very angry that one parent would most usually be the one who would end the conversation simply by stating, “Well, that’s just too bad, that is the way it is, and we are not going to talk about it any longer.”
At Wolf Creek Academy, we work with those students who have struggled with repressed anger through several methods, including individual and group therapy. Both types of therapy are essential for the adolescent harboring hatred in their hearts for other youth, family members, or a person responsible for hurting them in the past. This emotion will not just
go away as they mature or get through this phase. To detect the level of hostility, a parent must pay close attention to their child’s activities, including comments on Facebook, journals, etc.
Once you are certain that your child has been dealing with repressed anger through verbal aggression or other means, you must be prepared to move forward to obtain the appropriate help for them. Many parents will schedule counseling sessions for the student; however, the hostile adolescent may not easily cooperate with the therapist or even attempt to go for the session. If that is the case, parents must find other sources of help for their child and family through outside intervention.
The anger demonstrated in the home by your teen is only a cry for help! They are, most likely, feeling as though they could explode in a moment without any warning! They feel helpless and don’t know where to turn to rid themselves of the inner turmoil haunting them! You, as the parent, must gain control and take measures to help the entire family through a process of counseling, separation, or whatever it may take to bring about healing for your child and family.
At Wolf Creek Academy, we strive to help families in need by thorough evaluation and counseling for the child and family.
Wolf Creek offers anger management therapy for boys and girls aged 13 to 17. For over 30 years, our highly trained professional counselors have provided behavioral therapy, including anger management.